Proverbs 19:11

A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense ~ Proverbs 19:11

 

Offences can happen so quickly, too quickly most of the time. And at times, the simplicity of what has transpired to offend is truly amazing. Often too, the “offender” may not even know they have offended someone. It is always better to take the time to consider what the offense was, rather than to jump to conclusions, or to react in anger. We have to weigh matters with thought and discretion first, for when we take the time to think about things, then we can see them in a different light. And, if we cannot after a bit of time, then we must go and talk it through with that person. A question we must ask ourself in any situation is: Am I harmed? In other words, has something concrete happened to me? A punch in the face, a destroyed reputation, being arrested on false charges – these things are harmful. But, if I am told in private I need to work harder, my feelings may be hurt, but I am not harmed. We can fall into an inner trap where the offense leads to such inner turmoil that the only emotional release is through forgiveness. This is because not all offenses are easily dismissed. When forgiveness is present one can move on by putting the situation behind without carrying the offense onward. The scripture tells us it is glory to pass over a transgression, and not a disgrace. To not retaliate even if the offense is wrong shows a strength of character, especially if they have an opportunity.

Pastor Julia